Thursday, June 30, 2011

5 Years

I noticed him standing with a group of people, talking and laughing. Frankly, he was hard not to notice.  At 6’9”, he stood out, to say the least.  But there was something more than just his height; he seemed so confident, so “together.”

As the week went on, we had very little time together, yet when we did find ourselves in the same group, it felt like we were alone.  We had short, but meaningful, conversations in the car, at a restaurant, on the airplane. I can talk to anyone but something was just different about him.

My mom claims she heard it in my voice.  She says I said his name different than everyone else’s.  I’m not so sure I did, but maybe.  He was definitely special.

We spent the next week on the phone.  Yes, I do mean we spent the week on the phone.  Every night, after class, we’d talk.  Favorite books, sports, names of future children.  We talked about it all. I couldn’t help but wonder, where is this going? My cell phone company knew where it was going: right into overages for the month.

That weekend he came to visit with a group of friends. I didn’t know what to expect, so I prayed for a sign. Father, please, just give me a sign.  If he’s the one I’m supposed to date, let me know.

Two days later, in Chicago, four of us stopped to talk to a homeless man.  He told us a poem that he made up on the spot.  First, he looked at me and did a rhyme about my beauty and smile. Then, he looked at John, and spoke of his kindness and strength. Then, he stopped and said you’re perfect together. I’m not sure what happened next; I’d stopped thinking or listening for a moment, just letting those words you’re perfect together sink in.

It was in that exact spot, 967 days later, John asked me to be his wife. Of course, I said yes.

For the next eight months we worked hard to finish up college and plan our wedding. We dreamed of what life would be like when we were husband and wife.

It’s been five years since July 1, 2006, the day I said I do to John Michael Gleich. We’ve had some fantastic highs and some nearly shattering lows. Our dreams of the idealistic marriage certainly haven’t come true…how could they with two bull-headed people?  But it’s been a great five years. For every minute spent crying, we’ve spent two laughing. For every minute spent in a silly argument, we’ve spent two making up. Every day, we get to live life together.  Really, what more could I ask for?

I love you, John. Thanks for choosing me every day for the past five years. Know that I’ve chosen you, too, and I promise to choose you every day for the next hundred. Happy anniversary.

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Toddler Footprints

Today Thriving Family posted the question "What do you like most about summer?" on Twitter and Facebook. Throughout the day, I thought about that question. I like the hot weather (even though we don't have air conditioning). I like having a looser schedule. I like that my husband has a break from school. I like being outside. I like the sunshine.

But what do I like most?

As the boys and I came in from playing in the baby pool in our yard, I looked down, and I saw what I like best about summer. Toddler footprints. George and Patrick were leaving little, wet toddler footprints all over the laundry room.

Those sweet little footprints reminded me of so much. They reminded me of the fun times had in the pool. They reminded me of summers gone by (last year they would have been smeared from all the tumbling the boys were doing). They reminded me that soon, those footprints would be much bigger.

Time goes so fast and I find myself often too busy to appreciate the small things in life. So this summer, what I'm going to like best are those little toddler footprints.

Friday, June 17, 2011

A Country Father's Day

I love living near Chicago, but at heart, I’m a country girl. I grew up on a gravel road, surrounded by farms, 5 miles out of town. In honor of Father’s Day, here’s a list of things I learned from my dad that only a country girl would know:

1.) How to spot and identify birds of prey.

2.) What a deer tick looks like.

3.) How to shine deer.

4.) How to shoot all sorts of guns.

5.) When choosing your clothing, always ask yourself, “Would I be comfortable in a deer blind?”

6.) How to make a fire using flint.

7.) Blaze orange looks good on everyone.

8.) Duct tape and Shoe Goo fix everything.

9.) How to use a homemade turkey call.

10.) How to make the best apple crisp over an open fire.

Thanks, Dad, for teaching me all sorts of valuable things. I love the memories we have together and that I have awesome tidbits to pass on to the boys.

Happy Father’s Day!

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Why be good?

I've been thinking a lot lately about why I want my kids to be good. Well, more like, I've been thinking a lot lately that I want my kids to be good. Then I started to wonder why. Really, honestly, searching my heart and asking myself why I wanted my kids to be good. Here are my answers:

1.) I want life to be easy. When my children do what I ask, when I ask, I don't have to think or do anything. Life is easy.

2.) I don't want to be embarrassed. When my kids act up, I look bad. Let me be clear: I am not embarrassed by my children. I'm embarrassed that I can't handle them. It has very little to do with them and a lot to do with me.

There you have it. I've come up with two, completely self-serving reasons I want my kids to be good. I don't want to work hard and I don't want to look bad while I'm not working hard. Hmmm. This doesn't sound so good. Safety doesn't even make the list. I mean sure, I want my kids to be safe, but if they just listen, life will be easy, and they'll be safe. Right?
Could I be more selfish?

Okay, so my motives are bad. Does that mean that I'm wrong to want good kids?

After praying about it and thinking on it a while, I'm going to say, "I don't know, but I have a hunch."

No, wanting good kids isn't wrong. I want them to love each other (especially in a sibling situation). I want them to laugh, giggle, and be joyful. I want them to rest when its time to rest, both in body and soul. I want them to be patient with each other (and with me when I say things like, "I'll get you milk in a minute"). I want them to be kind to others on the playground. I want them to be good, loyal friends. I want them to use gentle hands and words with each other. Maybe, above all, I want the to use self-control when they're speaking, as well as in other areas.

When the list is written like that, it sounds a lot like Galatians 5:22-23
But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control...

When my motives are right, then the reason I want good kids is because I want them to be like Jesus.

When my motives are right, it becomes less about me and my needs, and more about my boys and their need...their need for God.


Father, change my motives. Let my first priority be to have boys who are full of your spirit. Give me the strength to discipline when it's needed, even when I don't feel like it. Remind me that this is not about me, Lord, but completely and totally about you. Above all, Father, let my babies be wild with love for you.

Monday, June 13, 2011

Mondays with the Ladies

I hate Mondays with every ounce of my being. Okay, that's a bit of and exaggeration, but I really don't like Mondays. Yes, I stay home with my kids. Yes, Monday is really no different than any other week day. However, there is just something about Mondays. It's the first day of the week that my husband isn't home. We're in recovery mode from our weekend. We're tired and whiney (yes, all of us). Mondays are just hard.

The one thing that makes Mondays bearable, though, is Monday nights. On Monday nights, I get to go to small group. Just over a year ago, a dear friend invited me to an all women's small group and my supportive and loving husband encouraged me to go. Praise the Lord, because it has been the best thing for me.

We just finished Friendships of Women Bible Study by Dee Brestin, and while it wasn't my favorite study, so many good things came from it. The very last question of the book was, "List three things that you think you will always remember from this study. Why? What will you do with them?"
Here are my three things:
1.) (though this doesn't exactly answer the question) I got my hands in the Bible. Mrs. Brestin wrote her study in a way that had us flipping from the front of the Bible to the back and then back again. It was awesome to see connections in the Old and New Testament. I will not forget my first Bible study that got me into the nitty-gritty of the Bible.
2.) There is this great quote on page 129 of this book: "Boundaries release folly from fools and fragrance from roses." Wow. What wisdom. I looked at this line two ways. First, if I'm friends with someone who has issues with my family's boundaries, that isn't okay. Second, it made me look at myself. When I have issues with someone's boundaries, I'm a fool. I want boundaries to bring out my Christ-like fragrance not my foolishness.
3.) We need truth-tellers in our lives. I've always had a hard time with constructive criticism and for that reason have often shied away from confrontation. I've felt like if I confront someone, they may have something to confront me about and I just don't want to hear it. What an immature attitude. God has used this study to deal with me in this area and has shown me how important it is to have people in our lives who will tell the truth, even when it hurts. When I want candy coating, I'll call my mama (that's what I need her for). When I want hard truth, I know who to call, and I love those people for that.
So, Mrs. Brestin, though I started this study unsure, and still say it was a bit confusing at times, thank you. This is just what this girl needed.

Sunday, June 12, 2011

The (new) Adventure Begins...

In awkward, shakey handwriting, I wrote, "When I grow up, I'm going to be an author." That was in first grade. In second grade, I wrote my first fictional story about a dinosaur and her baby. I used flashbacks and no one got it except my mom who said it was great (thanks, Mom!). In middle school, high school, and college, my love of writing developed and grew.
Now, after spending the last two and a half years being a mama and letting my passion for writing sit aside while my new passion for my kiddos took over, I stand here, breathe held and eyes squeezed shut on the edge of my dream, ready to leap.
I.Am.A.Writer.
There. I said it, so now it's true. I am a writer.
Hi. I'm Kate Gleich. I'm a stay-at-home mom and I'm a writer.